Sunday, August 31, 2008


Sexuality basically means where your sexual attractions lie. Who and what you are attracted to. It also defines what turns you off sexually. It is usually something that you do not choose, however you can definitely experiment with things along the way to test what you like and what you do not. You never know until you go.

Gender: all the ways people are (how they talk, speak, act, dress, behave, style themselves, etc.) that we relate to men, women, femininity, or masculinity; people can identify as male, female, neither gender, both gender, trans gender, etc., etc.- it's how they feel inside.

Sex: one's biological and physiological sex, as determined by their chromosomes, hormones, genitals, secondary sex characteristics like body hair, voice, fat distribution, etc..

Sexual orientation: the cumulative object(s) of one's sexual attractions.

Sexual behavior: all the sexual things one does; does NOT have to be in sync or in line with sexual orientation.

Kinsey Scale: scale that measures human sexual orientation from 0 (exclusively heterosexual) to 6 (exclusively homosexual) with gradations in between, based on one's sexual behavior and fantasies, up to that time.

Klein Sexual Orientation Grid: scale that measures human sexual orientation like the Kinsey Scale, but takes into account the past, present, ideal (future), sexual attraction, behavior, sexual fantasies, emotional preference, social preference, and the idea that people's sexuality can change.

Polyamory: the desire, practice, or acceptance of having more than one loving, intimate relationship at a time with the full knowledge and consent of everyone involved.

Monogamy: custom or condition of having only one mate.

Heterosexual: sexually attracted to the opposite sex.

Homosexual: sexually attracted to the same sex.

Bisexual: sexually attracted to both men and women.

Pansexual: sexually attracted to men, women, and transgender and transsexual people.

Omnisexual: often used interchangeably with 'pansexual'; potential sexual attraction to any and all things, sexuality that responds to ideas, concepts, objects, etc., etc..

Pomosexual: the "erotic reality beyond the boundaries of gender, separatism, and essentialist notions of sexual orientation." (pomosexuals do not identify with any essentially-defined sexual label, and it is used in reference to oneself as a protest against such labels.)

Asexual: no sexual attraction to anything (romantic attraction is possible, and though it often isn't, sexual desire may be present, but is directed at nothing; only tactile stimulation results in arousal, nothing mental).

Auto sexual: sexual attraction to oneself, one's own body.

Transsexual: dis concordant gender identity; feeling that one was born in the wrong body. May or may not be rectified with hormones and surgery.

Transgender(ed): having a non-binary gender identity; feeling not like a man or a woman in the way they are typically defined in our society; considering oneself neither genders, both, or a "third gender". They do not change their bodies with hormones or surgery.

Cisgender(ed): a non-trans individual; men who were physiologically male at birth, raised as boys, and who identify as men, and women who were physiologically female at birth, raised as girls, and who identify as women.

Transvestite: dresses in the clothing typically belonging to the opposite sex; may do so in private or public, for sexual arousal or not, from only certain articles of clothing, to full presentation of the opposite sex; they don't want to be the opposite sex full-time, however.

Cross-dresser: another term for 'transvestite', more commonly used and more recent and less medical.

Drag Queen/King: performers who act out exaggerations of gender stereotypes to the opposite sex; drag kings are women who perform exaggerated male characters; drag queens are men who do exaggerated female characters.

Bio Queen/King: performers who act out exaggerations of gender stereotypes to their own sex: bio kings are men who perform exaggerated male characters; bio queens are women do exaggerated female characters.

Hermaphrodite: antiquated term for those born with both sets of genitals or an ambiguous biological sex (obsolete, not used anymore).

Inter sex(ed): correct, modern term for those born with an inter sex condition (there are many possibilities: non-standard chromosomal compositions like XXXY, hormone deficiencies/intolerances, ambiguous genitals, etc., etc..).

Now where do you belong?

Saturday, August 30, 2008


In the past the male role was to be a scruffy, hairy, and sweaty; the kind of grease monkey that really was found to be quite attractive by the gals in the 1950s.

However the days of being able to go without shaving for a week are history. These days society demands that we always look fashionable and our best. The term metrosexual was really coined by reality TV shows featuring gay actors who gave a make over and image transformation to straight males.

To be metrosexual does not mean you are homosexual. It simply means you are a well groomed, image conscious straight male, who fancies designer clothing and a day trip to the spa to get a manicure.

learn how to know if you are a metrosexual.

Things You’ll Need:

  • A mirror
  • Personal time
  • Female opinion
  • Gay opinion


Look at your wardrobe. A classic sign of being a metrosexual is to be label fanatic. Take a gander at your wardrobe. Are all of your clothes name brand? Do you have lots of hot and new fashions that cost a pretty penny? Are there days that go by where you change several times because you think you don’t look right?


Take a gander in the mirror. Is your hair flat ironed and well kept? Have you recently shaved and look well groomed overall?


Check underneath your fingernails. Are your nails fine and manicured? Do you frequently visit a day spa for a facial or body treatment?


Ask a female for their opinion. Girls have great instinct and can usually spot a metrosexual right away. Your best bet is to get an opinion from a female that you trust.


Ask any gay friends. Gay men have a total knack for spotting metrosexual males, as they were ones who coined the term in the first place. The best way to find out if you are is to ask any gay friends that you may know.


Get over it. Being metrosexual is not a bad thing. It means you are well said, well groomed, and well spoken. It means that you are image conscious and fashionably aware. It means that you have a sharp appearance and a lot to offer single women.

Remember metrosexual does not mean gay, they are just men who look good and want to look good, they are just guys who love being clean and well groomed where ever they go.

Monday, August 25, 2008

WARNING: New Virus....

this is to warn you about the new virus circulating the net, it is very deadly and computer experts have not found any cure or ways to contain it.

My computer had been infected and to my grief and horror.

My mouse was reduced to this....

.....OH MY GOD!!!!

I had my heart fixed and now i am ready to smile, to accept that life is not just fun but full of miseries and loneliness sometimes.

To be broken and hurt is part of growing up and there's nothing more we can do after that but to cry and feel the pain, but then after feeling the pain stand up once more and accept what life had taught you!

Be strong and be brave. A broken heart is nothing more but a broken heart, it will never heal if you keep on scratching it, but it will mend if you allow it.

There are a thousand and one ways to forget, only sometimes we are just to stubborn to accept and to really begin to forget.

extraordinary watch dogs

A girl was visiting her blond friend, who had acquired two new dogs, and asked her what their names were.

The blond responded by saying that one was named Rolex and one was named Timex.
Her friend said, 'Whoever heard of someone naming dogs like that?'
'HELLLOOOOOOO......,' answered the blond. 'They're watch dogs!'

"I like the way you are thinking!!!"

Little Johnny was sitting in class doing math problems when his teacher picked him to answer a question. "Johnny, if there were five birds sitting on a fence and you shot one with your gun, how many would be left ?"
"None.",replied Johnny. "'cause the rest would fly away."
"Well, the answer is four," said the teacher. "But I like the way you are thinking."

Little Johnny said, "I have a question for you now. If there were three women eating ice cream cones in a shop, one licking her cone, the second biting her cone, and the third one sucking her cone, which one is married?"
"Well," said the teacher nervously, "I guess the one sucking the cone?"
"No," said Little Johnny, "the one with the wedding ring on her finger. But I like the way you are thinking."

Sunday, August 24, 2008

generation WHAT?

What terrence means?

What Terrence Means

You are a seeker. You often find yourself restless - and you have a lot of questions about life.
You tend to travel often, to fairly random locations. You're most comfortable when you're far away from home.
You are quite passionate and easily tempted. Your impulses sometimes get you into trouble.

You are friendly, charming, and warm. You get along with almost everyone.
You work hard not to rock the boat. Your easy going attitude brings people together.
At times, you can be a little flaky and irresponsible. But for the important things, you pull it together.

You are wild, crazy, and a huge rebel. You're always up to something.
You have a ton of energy, and most people can't handle you. You're very intense.
You definitely are a handful, and you're likely to get in trouble. But your kind of trouble is a lot of fun.

You are very intuitive and wise. You understand the world better than most people.
You also have a very active imagination. You often get carried away with your thoughts.
You are prone to a little paranoia and jealousy. You sometimes go overboard in interpreting signals.

You are very open. You communicate well, and you connect with other people easily.
You are a naturally creative person. Ideas just flow from your mind.
A true chameleon, you are many things at different points in your life. You are very adaptable.

thanks to normand hehehe!!!

Saturday, August 23, 2008

whats the differences?

Very funny how we see things differently...

This is how you see your house....

This is how your appraiser see your house...

This is how your buyer see your house...

This is how your lender see your house...

This is how your tax assessor see your house.....


Thursday, August 21, 2008

Best friends...

A friend is someone who truly understands you and accepts you despite your shortcomings. Friendship is a rare and precious commodity that should be treasured and cherished.

"One loyal friend is worth ten thousand relatives."

"You can always tell a real friend: when you've made a fool of yourself he doesn't feel you've done a permanent job."

"Chance makes our parents, but choice makes our friends."

"To find a friend one must close one eye -- to keep him, two."

Sunday, August 10, 2008


today i lost a friend...

Sunday, August 3, 2008

messing around!

the past few days is a total mess, i worry too much of the things i don't have any power to change. I think i have to accept there are things not considered good but we have to accept it because we are not in the position to shout out for a change!

Friday, August 1, 2008

Just stress!

I am really pissed off and stressed this few days and as result i started asking "what is stress" and started typing it in my search engine and wow, got lots of result as usual haha.

What Is Stress?

Stress is the emotional and physical strain caused by our response to pressure from the outside world. Common stress reactions include tension, irritability, inability to concentrate, and a variety of physical symptoms that include headache and a fast heartbeat.

It's almost impossible to live without some stress. And most of us wouldn't want to, because it gives life some spice and excitement. But if stress gets out of control, it may harm your health, your relationships, and your enjoyment of life.

What Are The Signs Of Stress?

Stress can cause both mental and physical symptoms. The effects of stress are different for different people.

The mental symptoms of stress include:

  • Tension
  • Irritability
  • Inability to concentrate
  • Feeling excessively tired
  • Trouble sleeping

The physical symptoms of stress include:

  • Dry mouth
  • A pounding heart
  • Difficulty breathing
  • Stomach upset
  • Frequent urination
  • Sweating palms
  • Tight muscles that may cause pain and trembling

Ways To Manage Stress


Many stress-management experts recommend keeping a sense of humor during difficult situations. Laughing releases muscle tension and helps a person maintain perspective.

Activities as simple as watching a funny movie, listening to a tape of a comedian's routine, or sharing time with a humorous friend can provide a psychological lift and relieve stress.


Regular leisure activities are important in reducing stress. Many people benefit from making time for positive leisure pursuits rather than, for example, spending time watching television in the evening (although that, too, can be relaxing to some degree).

Relaxing hobbies include gardening, painting, bicycling, photography, carpentry, collecting, and many others. In order to obtain the most relaxation and enjoyment, the satisfaction should come in doing the hobby, not in the results. An individual who pursues gardening for relaxation may not grow prize-winning vegetables, but they can be eaten. An amateur photographer may not sell photographs, but they can be admired by friends and family.


Used for many years in Eastern cultures, meditation is becoming more widely accepted in the U.S. as a relaxation technique. Meditation reduces heart rate, blood pressure, adrenaline Epinephrine, the hormone that serves as a stimulant in the body, increasing blood pressure and heart rate, among other roles. levels, and skin temperature.

There are a variety of meditation techniques that share a common goal: to achieve relaxation by clearing the mind of stressful outside interferences. Meditation involves achieving a state of consciousness in which the individual focuses on a single thing, such as a key word, sound, or image.

Meditation techniques rely on quiet surroundings, sitting still, and a repetitive mental pattern. Various techniques are taught in instruction books and through religious and nonreligious organizations.


Biofeedback provides a way for people to learn to control activities over which they normally have no awareness, such as heart rate and muscle tension. It is considered by many health professionals to be a valuable therapeutic tool for reducing stress. Biofeedback involves no discomfort and no risk.

Biofeedback relies on sensitive electronic equipment. Sensors are placed on the body at various locations to measure skin temperature and muscle activity. The sensors are attached to a monitor that detects fluctuations when a person is anxious and displays signals in the form of beeps or light flashes. By watching the monitor, a person learns to control these stressful responses.

Massage Therapy

Massage is the gentle practice of manipulating the body's tissues in order to soothe and heal. It is one of the most ancient of the healing arts, and more people today are relying on it for natural, drug-free relief from the effects of busy, overstressed lives. Massage can relax the entire body and provide new energy that lingers long after the massage is over.

A number of research studies have shown that massage reduces heart rate, lowers blood pressure, increases blood circulation and lymph flow, relaxes muscles, improves range of motion, and increases the production of endorphins, which are the body's own natural painkillers. There are a number of massage therapy techniques, including Swedish massage and Shiatsu.

Massages can be for the full body or particular areas of the body, such as the back and shoulders. Some people choose to wear some clothing during a massage; others prefer to undress or use a dressing gown. During a massage, the person is warmly covered, and only the part of the body on which the therapist is working is uncovered.